I WON’T SAY IT OUT LOUD
It seems it disturbs my mother that I keep mentioning the alleged deity whose initials, reversed, are C.J., even though my remarks are more political than religious. I think it is every Jewish parent’s fear that their child will be seduced by the dominant culture and go goy. This is a particularly sore point in the community because the Jewish population is tiny (approximately 1% in the U.S. and 0.22% worldwide) and getting smaller.
Not to worry, Mamasan. I will not be soldiering for C.J. until I get some hard evidence, or, failing that, a frontal lobotomy. Since I don’t see either on the horizon, you can cross (as it were) it off your list of concerns. Keep an eye on my brother, though. You know how impressionable he is.
This reminds me of a party I attended last summer, populated by my dear husband’s co-workers and their spouses. Whenever I get around people (read that: moms) whose kids are older than mine, I steer the conversation to local high schools. Specifically, which one do your kids attend, and what do you think of it?
A woman at the party told me her daughter attended a Catholic high school, and that after going there for awhile, she converted to Catholicism. My jaw dropped.
“Are you Catholic?”
“No,” she said cheerfully. “Vanilla Protestant.”
“Are you ok with that?”
“Oh yes,” she said. “I think they need to decide for themselves…”
Seattle liberals, eh?
This is what I don’t get. If you say, in essence, that any religion (or presumably no religion at all) is a valid choice, aren’t you tacitly admitting that your own religion has no inherent validity? If you really believe that whatever you purport to believe is True, isn’t it your job and your responsibility to make sure your kids believe/practice it too? And if, in contrast, you believe the “all gods are one god” free-flowing spiritual yada yada, why attend a church that teaches one way is the right way?
I defer to your experience, Xangan followers of C.J. Would you object to your kid’s conversion, or is any flavor of CJanity ok with you? And would you mind more if your kid switched to a non-CJ faith? (There’s plenty of room in Judaism, but the entrance requirements are pretty stiff.)